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You need to be “unrealistic!” Intentional Goal Setting Series (1/3)

You need to be “unrealistic!” Intentional Goal Setting Series (1/3)

Happy New Year! Everyone in business will be ringing in 2021 this coming weekend. You hadn’t heard? Our pay days are the lagging indicator of the work we’ve put in now and the work we put in today will likely build toward income in January. For some, sales cycles may be shorter than two months, yet it is never too early to start setting yourself up for success!

I’ve met people who dread setting goals. Oftentimes, it is because they have trouble achieving the goals they’ve set for themselves or because they are being forced to do so. Goal setting is one of my favorite things to do and I’m exciting to share with you, over the next three weeks a proven process for taking your biggest dreams and making them your reality.

If I showed you the picture of a finished house and asked you to build it, how likely is it you would even know where to begin? Better, how about if I gave you a lot, wood, cement, tools, and even a crew. Without a clear set of instructions, how would you know what to build? Even if you were a carpenter or a general contractor, you wouldn’t know the dimensions, let alone the materials finishes.

How about if you got to watch a time lapse video of the house being built… in reverse… so you could watch the house being disassembled, piece by piece. You could slow down the replay and see how things are built. You could write down all of the components needed to ensure the roof stays up and that the foundation is stable.

We do the same thing with our goals. The two most common mistakes I’ve seen with goals are:

  • People set big goals and never build a plan to achieve them. They are discouraged by attempts to build their house from the finished picture and throw in their towel.
  • People set small goals, labeling them “realistic” and hit them. This may be even worse than the first, as we train ourselves to see mediocrity as success.

Today, we’ll paint that picture of our finished house. Just like your life, that finished house is made up of several components and systems which are all vital to its operation as a complete house. What are the parts of your life which complete you as a whole person? From their book, The One Thing, Gary Keller and Jay Papasan describe a life which can be grouped into seven areas.

  • Personal Life
  • Physical Health
  • Spiritual Life
  • Key Relationships
  • Finances
  • Job
  • Business

Take action!

1. In your journal or a notebook you can build on for the next few weeks, write a long term goal for each of the seven areas of your life.

2. Each goal should be your ultimate picture of success. Dare to dream big! If your goal can be accomplished in the next five years, you aren’t dreaming big enough!


3. Once you’ve written your Someday Goals, write them in a first-person narrative, using inclusive statements and non-conditional language. Example:


“When I am living my level 10 life, I will have every weekend and evening with my family. We will take one long vacation every quarter and will travel internationally twice per year.”

Bring your completed someday goals with you next week as we take the first steps toward an action plan to complete them. You may have seen me write about dominos in the past and how a domino can knock down another which is 50% larger. These are your earth to the moon dominos. We are going to chunk down to your two inch dominos which you can knock down with a simple flick of your finger, starting the chain reaction to your dreams!

Next step:

—> (2/3) You Future In Focus!

Posted by Adam Lendi in Business Planning, Goal Setting, Habits, Life, 5 comments
This one secret is why successful people grow faster

This one secret is why successful people grow faster

It’s in our culture and it’s everywhere we look. We are programmed to idolize and hold up successful business owners, world-class athletes, and amazing minds. What is it that sets us apart from these public figures, idols, and celebrities? Birth-right only gets you so far. How does one go from average to extraordinary? I know what it is and it’s simpler than you think.

The most successful people in their craft practice their specialization with a dedication you and I have trouble maintaining. They aren’t experts of everything; they are masters of their one thing. What’s the difference between you and legendary guitarist Eric Clapton? His fingers aren’t anything extraordinary. He didn’t come from a lineage of advanced music genetics. It’s not money and not even the tools he was given when he first learned to play. Eric grew up in an otherwise average military family and was given a cheap guitar as a gift at 13 as a gift. Once he took interest in it, he practiced his craft non-stop and was an advanced player by age 16.

The difference between talented and successful people and those who are average are the habits they build around their one thing.

Notice I said “one thing.” He who attempts to master everything, masters nothing. Perhaps you know someone who dabbles in lots of things and who is a Jack of all trades. While they may be able to fill lots of roles in your life or your business, they generally aren’t the best or the top pick for any one of those roles. Remember when working with a Jack of all trades that he comes second to the Queen and the King.

Identifying your one thing isn’t always simple. In the business world, you’re in a phase we call entrepreneurial. This is where you are figuring out what it is you do best, what stokes your passion, and what it is you do which fills a need for others. This is a normal phase in leadership development and we all must go through it if we are to identify our one thing. We don’t want to get stuck in the entrepreneurial phase for too long though. The goals is to move to a more purposeful execution on your top strengths and the highest and best use of your time and abilities. We call this the journey of moving from E to P.

Entrepreneurs tend to get stuck beneath their ceiling of achievement. They do what comes naturally to them and sometimes they do quite well… for a long time. Those who are most driven tend to go through cycles where they make changes and pivot their strategy, attempting to grown, only to hit their ceiling and fall back to what they are most comfortable with.

To break through your ceiling of achievement it takes intentional goal-setting and purposeful planning to develop a breakthrough strategy. Even then, the battle is not yet won. It takes high level of daily accountability to break away from what is familiar and do the uncomfortable activities we know we must do to break through to the next level, beyond our ceiling of achievement.

Whether you are learning to play guitar, baking pizza, or running a direct to consumer sales business, you must practice your craft in order to perfect it. When you create a rhythm, you can master whatever your one thing is. That rhythm being regular and habitual execution.

Where most habit building goes wrong is in scale alone. If you are striving to learn guitar and you task yourself with one hour of practice each day, you are bound to find yourself exhausted, frustrated, or a combination of the two, before that hour is up. If you fail to meet your hour of practice goal, day after day, eventually you will feel bad about your performance, quit, and resolve that you are not the kind of person who plays guitar.

In his book Atomic Habits, James Clear describes the Two Minute Rule. Simply put, the act of executing your habit must take two minutes or less. In the guitar playing example, this could simply be setting the goal to two minutes of guitar playing, per day. Two minutes is far more sustainable than sixty and you’re bound to start going over two minutes as your skill-set improves.

In the case of more complex habits, where two minutes of execution alone may not be enough to get started, find a precursory task which takes two minutes or less, which will make execution inevitable, and build a habit around that. What does this mean?

If your goal is to attain peak physical fitness by exercising daily and your track record leading up to now shows you have not gone to the gym at all in over a year, it may be difficult to begin a daily hour long workout habit. Go smaller. It may not be enough to say you workout for two minutes even. Go smaller still. The habit could be as simple as packing your gym clothes before you go to bed and putting them in your car. This daily habit may be all the trigger you need to make it to the gym each day. If you can record a “W” each day, you’re more likely to uphold the habit. When building a new habit we must standardize before we optimize.

Don’t lose focus. Constantly benchmark your successes, re-analyze your goals, and correct course as needed. As I title my last post, You’re one habit away from your next breakthrough. What is that next habit which will put you at the top of your game?

Want to take it to the next level? Start a 66 Day Challenge. If you don’t know what that is, email me at adam@mymapscoach.com and tell me about the habit you are building. I will bring you up to speed and join you in a 66 Day Challenge in my private accountability group. Get your habit tracker below and get started today.

Posted by Adam Lendi in Goal Setting, Habits, Life, Tools, 0 comments
Win Your Day, Win Your Life!

Win Your Day, Win Your Life!

The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago. The next best time is today! It’s not hard for us to daydream about the life we’d like to live and the people we want to be. If you caught my goal setting class last week (if you didn’t, you can watch the recording and download your own one page business plan, HERE), you know we can reverse-engineer your life’s goals and lay a roadmap to make each year a measurable step toward your ideal life. Why then do we procrastinate? Do we not value our precious and finite time on this world enough?

Let’s start off by quantifying how much life you’ve lived and how much you expect you have left. According to website, Macrotrends (https://www.macrotrends.net/countries/USA/united-states/life-expectancy), life expectancy in 2020 is 78.93 years. That’s 28,809 days. Now that is the average. I don’t know about you, however, I am dedicated to living to triple digits, meaning that if I reached my 100th birthday, it would be a win, at 36,525 days. I am currently 34 years old and on the day I am writing this post I have been on this earth for 12,478 days. By subtracting my current days from my anticipated days, I know I have 24,047 days remaining. Imagine that countdown clock on your wall. Would you change your behavior if each day you saw that number counting down? 24,046… 24,045… 24,044. Imagine if you weren’t as optimistic as me and you only expected to live the average and that countdown was about to fall below 10,000. How would you behave tomorrow to ensure you don’t squander another day and to ensure your success?

In The ONE Thing (Gary Keller, Jay Papasan), the authors symbolize accomplishments in life like a series of dominoes. Studies have shown that a single domino standing can knock down another domino, fifty-percent larger than itself. If you start with a two-inch domino, the second would be three-inches, and the third four-and-a-half. As the dominoes get exponentially larger, so does the energy exerted by the last domino. The twenty-third domino would be the height of the Eiffel Tower, the thirty-first would be three-thousand feet taller than Mt. Everest, and the fifty-seventh would reach the moon from the earth’s surface.

Imagine how little effort it took this man to knock down his 5mm domino that toppled the one-hundred pound monolith at the end.

What doesn’t change is the energy required to knock down that simple two-inch domino, starting the chain reaction which inevitably knocks down your moonshot domino. Sometimes in life, you’re staring down that domino that casts shade on Mt. Everest, wondering how you’ll ever topple it. Now that you know your objective, we need to go small.

Once you’re clear on where you want to be, we can reverse-engineer your goals and break them down to the year, month, week, and even the day. If you knew that adherence to your schedule today would build the life of your dreams, would you squander another day? Would you let other people’s priorities and “emergencies” distract you from the playbook of your dreams? Your clock is counting down. You don’t have until next year… Not even next quarter. You could live to be 100, like I intend. You could make it to 78. You might develop a rare form of cancer and be given a prognosis of one year from today. What is the legacy you will leave? What will your obituary say about how you lived?

If you are stuck finding your big domino, check out my goal setting class, HERE. Once you have your big domino, join me at my next class, Get the 4-1-1 on Your Schedule. We’ll reverse engineer your goals and I’ll give you the tools you need to fill your calendar with the activities which will ensure your inevitable success.

Posted by Adam Lendi in Business Planning, Coaching, Events, Goal Setting, Time Blocking, 2 comments